Sunday, September 20, 2015

Nautica Malibu Triathlon Humbles Me

Mausser Family Affair at Nautica Malibu Tri

 Well the big day came and went.

I am happy to report that I completed the Nautica Malibu Tri Classic Distance today and -- swimming, biking and running beside some really serious competitors was daunting -- I am very happy with my results.  

It dawned a humbling day.  Waiting an hour and five minutes for my swim wave to start was quite excruciating and a bit intimidating.  Within my women's 40-49 age group, there were many experienced racers.  Moments before our gun went off, House of Pain's "Jump Around" roared out of the speakers and more than one hundred 40 year olds got motivated. Forty is definitely the new 20!

The ocean conditions were the best in the 29 year history of the race and clear as can be; However, I did get a few kicks to the face and I did see a very dark 10 to 15 foot shadow below me at one point.  Jason's advice in hindsight:  "IF it was a shark or something that could bite you, it was more afraid of the racers than you are of it."  Hmmm....dressed like a seal and thrashing around with 100 other women dressed like seals...smorgasbord comes to my mind; But hell, I lived to tell about it.

The bike was shortened to (around) 17.8 miles at the last minute and thank you to the event director, Michael Epstein Sports Production.  It was a bit more challenging than expected but I did witness a lot of crashes and bike malfunctions so happy I completed it unscathed.  
Shane and Jon Cryer

The run is where I was able to make up my time and I completed the event with a solid 8 minute mile for 4 miles.

I came in 13th in my age group but was only a blip on the radar overall: 671 out of 1,622.

The event was a family affair for the Maussers.  Shane participated in the kids 100 yard dash for 11 and 12 year olds, and placed second.

 At the end of the day, it was really about Children's Hospital Los Angeles.  It was a star-studded event:  Jeffrey Tambor was the awards MC, KTLA's Chris Schauble, Tia Carrera, Phil Keoghan, the host of the amazing race, and John Cryer were among many other celebrities who participated.  (There were a lot of younger celebs but I am so old now that I am out of touch and didn't know who they were...honestly!)

Nautica Malibu Triathlon ended up raising more than $1.3 million dollars for our LA kids and their families who face challenges far greater and are way braver than any Triathlete in the event today.  

An amazing event for an amazing cause!

Friday, September 18, 2015

Tri-ing to Face My Fears and Race Out of my Comfort Zone

My Inspiration...

In two days, I will be participating in the Nautica Malibu Triathlon “Classic” distance which consists of a ½ mile swim, 18 mile bike ride and 4 mile run.  This is – by far – the longest event I have set my sights on, and to say I am nervous as hell is an understatement.

For those who know me personally or have read my blog over the years, I have a passion for running.  I have one full marathon, six or so half-marathons, and more 10K and 5K races than I can count under my belt; so one may think that triathlons would be a natural progression for a competitor like me.  Actually, it didn’t go down like that at all.

A few years ago, my neighbor Lisa started competing in Triathlons.  She suggested that I do one with her.  I smiled politely and said I would give it some thought but, in my head, I didn’t even consider the idea.
Now, I did grow up on the Jersey Shore and, during my youth, I spent a lot of time at the beach and in the Atlantic Ocean.  During the 70s, when I was my son Shane’s age, my BFF Dina and I would get up and go to the beach every day, all summer long. 

No parent was anchored to the shore checking to see if we were OK; I mean, why bother hiring life guards then.  Some days, I would rent an old school canvas raft to ride the waves or float to the last buoy; luckily, I never floated out to sea. But on most days, it would just be my beach towel, a brown bag lunch and my love of the Shore.  
However, when I moved to Southern California in 1994, the love affair ended. I can honestly say that, for more than 20 years, I could count the number of times I entered the Pacific Ocean in Southern California on one hand.  The cold temperature and its angry demeanor just didn’t seem inviting. To be honest, swimming in the ocean was a complete non-issue and I didn’t feel like I was missing out on anything until Shane opened my eyes.

Our boy has always loved the ocean and, when he was 18 months old, he jumped right in with no hesitation. To my dismay, it was January.
Today, Shane loves to boogey board and has surfed a little bit but mostly he just loves to swim.  I would always make a valiant effort to act like I enjoyed swimming with him but I would usually turn swim duty over to my husband Jason as quickly as possible.

It wasn’t only the discomforts of the Pacific, but it was also the fear of the unknown lurking under the gray, green waters.  When your local pier is a nursery for juvenile White Sharks, it can be very daunting.
On top of it all, when Shane was born, I became a complete worry wart:  I fretted if he ate too much; if he didn’t eat enough; if he was too hot; or too cold.  The thing was that, as he got older, my worrying seemed to get worse.

By the time he was in elementary school and I should be relishing in his independence, I was pretty much paralyzed with anxiety about all the things that could happen to him once he left the safety of my sights.  Luckily, I have a very normal husband who made light of my concern.  Shane is our only child and, for the most part, Jason has always balanced out my over-protectiveness. Yet realistically, I knew I wasn’t setting a very good example by being scared of my own shadow.
The bottom line: I realized that I had to grow some balls.  So, when Lisa approached me again about doing a Mini-Sprint Triathlon with her, I said yes.  She took me under her wing and showed me the ropes and, for the first time in my adult life, it felt good to be out of my comfort zone.

The running part was no problem and I knew I could at least ride a bike, but the swimming was definitely going to be a difficult.  I have never been a “strong swimmer” (my favorite Martin Short quote btw) or a sport swimmer by any means.  I made a soggy start swimming laps at my local gym.  I didn’t like water in my nose so I had nose plugs, swim cap, goggles that seemed to buoy up the bags under my eyes.  I was definitely a sight and not quite as glamorous as Esther Williams.
Slowly, I plugged away and my endurance grew.  Soon, I no longer needed the nose plugs and thank goodness because I could barely breathe while swimming.  I did almost my entire training in a 25 meter pool and, when Lisa asked if I was ready for an open ocean swim with her Triathlon Trainer, I knew that I wasn’t but replied, sure!

I realized very quickly that swimming in the ocean is much, much different than doing laps in a pool.  Going out that day, I got beat up a bit by some daunting waves and my goggles fogged up instantly. Once we got out past the wave break about 100 yards (the length of a football field), I realized that I had never been this far out in the ocean without some sort of flotation device and those bags under my eyes weren’t going to help me now.  
I felt blind and my fear was palpable.  The Tri Trainer said swim to the pier (about a quarter mile) and I thought to myself, there is no way I’m going to make it.  But the other women were already gone and my pride was beginning to prune, so I prepared to do the front crawl stroke. 

I put my face in the very murky and very deep water and the iconic cover of Peter Benchley’s novel, “Jaws” instantly popped into my mind.  I kept picturing myself swimming (OK with a wet suit and not naked) but with that giant Great White coming straight up to get me. 
Needless to say, I had a full blown panic attack.  I could not put my face in the water and tried swimming back stroke and then side stroke but the feeling of wanting to just scream and run was overwhelming.  The problem was that I couldn’t do either because I was 100 yards out to sea.  The trainer came by and talked me off the ledge and, I thought to myself, I need to pay him extra for his open ocean therapy session.  He did calm me down and said he had seen grown men more scared than me and I thought to myself, Shane would love this and he wouldn’t be scared. He would just do it.
LA Triathlon 2015:  Coming in 3rd EFS

With my little guy as my inspiration, I started to swim and made it to the pier but that was all I had in me and, once we were done, I was out of the water as fast as a shot.

I was very disappointed in myself after that first ocean swim and vacillated with the thought of quitting the race.  But I thought to myself, what kind of message would I send to Shane if I were to quit without even trying?

The days leading up to my first race – which consisted of a ¼ mile swim, 5 mile bike ride and 1.5 mile run – were excruciating.  I was so scared that I could barely eat or sleep.  It only got worse as the event approached and on the day of I was actually sick with anticipation.But come what may, I knew that I had to stick to my commitment.  In reality, all the organizing of the equipment and the over-thinking of the transitions were a comfort to me.

When I finally crashed through those first waves with the rest of the women in my division, I felt alive and a part of something that was much bigger than myself; And later when I crossed the finish line, the feeling of having faced some pretty big personal fears and accomplished something that I never, ever thought would be possible for me was exhilarating.

Today, I am not immune to my fears but I try not to let them beat me down. This coming Sunday in Malibu is no exception, but I know that as long as I have Shane cheering me on, I can do anything.

Friday, August 14, 2015

This Time It’ll be ‘Better Than Before’

Several months back, my bestie Rachel told me about a book that had really resonated with her.  The book, entitled The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, accounts the author’s year-long journey “test-driving the wisdom of the ages, current scientific research, and lessons from popular culture about how to be happier.”

During that time, Rachel would forward me blog posts, podcasts and “Rubin-isms” that she found inspiring.  I have to be honest, they really did interest me; however, I was hesitant. I’ve never met a self-help book that didn’t initially intrigue me but, inevitably, my interest would usually wane after the first few chapters.  

Point in case, my Nana was inspired by Suze Orman and bought me her book “9 Steps to Financial Freedom.” I started out the gate strong and was super motivated. I even bought Quicken ® and spent hours inputting all our data.  But by the 4th step, I was done and way more interested in the allegations that Orman was a 55-year old virgin.  Now that is an unhappy thought.

But Rachel’s referral stayed with me and, finally, I requested The Happiness Project from my local library.  I read the first chapter and was hooked until the very last page.  Rubin’s easy-going writing style and realistic approach to changing your life for the happier resounded with me as much as it did Rachel and, to the contrary of Orman, this made me very happy so I ran out and bought my very own copy which is very rare for me.

When I was done reading, I wanted more and this is how I stumbled upon Rubin’s most recent book, Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives.

According to Rubin’s website, “As observed in the review in the New York Times Sunday Book Review, 'The Happiness Project lays out life’s essential goals…Her new book, Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives, serves as a kind of detailed instruction manual on how to achieve them.’”

Also, the site states, “Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life. It takes work to make a habit, but once that habit is set, we can harness the energy of habits to build happier, stronger, more productive lives.”

Yeah (fist pump)!  For those of you who have followed my blog, you know it has been sporadic at best over the past few years.  So, among the many habits that I would like to strengthen…you guessed it… I want to be more dedicated to my writing.  My priorities include (once again): posting to my blog on a regular basis; attending my writing group consistently; and continuing to plug away on my big writing project.

However, it's not just about writing one time, it is about being consistent and writing every day...forever!

I know that being creative makes me happy but, my role as a mom who works full-time and my family’s busy social life, has caused my writing to suffer the most.  I had allowed my writing to be pushed to the bottom of my To Do list day after day, so I was desperate to find a manageable way to get myself back on track and Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives has given me the wherewithal to do so. 

On Rubin’s Blog, she posts, “Many experts suggest one-size-fits-all solutions for habit change — and boy, it would be great if there were one magical answer that helped everyone. But we’re all different, so different strategies work for different people.”

Ain’t that the truth?  I think that is why Rubin’s philosophy works so well for me personally because once you gain an understanding of certain Self-Knowledge – Tendencies and Distinctions – you have your own unique treasure map to forming good habits and, ironically, everyone’s map is different.  

According to Rubin, Tendencies fall into four categories: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel.  Not surprisingly, I am an Upholder, a person who meets outer and inner expectations.  Also known as Type A personality perhaps?  If you want to find out your own tendency, please take the quiz.

However, Rubin also writes on her blog, “…it’s not enough to just know your Tendency; you must also recognize your Distinctions. (For instance, are you a Marathoner or Sprinter? Under-buyer or over-buyer? Finisher or Opener? Novelty-lover or Familiarity-lover?)"

Doesn't this just grab you?  Don't you want to know more?

Once you are able to identify your Tendencies and Distinctions, it is possible to start implementing the necessary strategies to modify your habits based on your personal predispositions to make or break practices.
Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives  has chapters that provide the framework entitled: Pillars of Habits; The Best Time to Begin; Desire, Ease, and Excuses; and Unique, Just like Everyone Else.

One topic that I really gravitated toward was the section of Foundation which was a carry-over from The Happiness Project.  Rubin substantiates that by getting enough sleep, moving your body every day, eating and drinking healthfully, and un-cluttering your life anybody can build resilient habits with good bones.

Believe it or not, I haven’t actually finished the book yet, but I am so inspired I just had to write about it and share my excitement.  I have been working hard to implement Rubin’s common sensibilities – you are reading this post aren’t you – and find myself so much happier.  I know that I will stumble upon "Loopholes" and "Distractions" (you will just have to read the book) but I’m hoping that Rubin’s survival skills will help me to stick with it and at the very least help to stay on the straight and narrow.

So don’t worry, be happy!

To learn more about Gretchen Rubin and what she is about, visit